Hey, random but… how have you really been lately?
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When You Want To Start A Deeper Conversation messages in a Friendly tone
Here are 10+ curated message examples when you want to start a deeper conversation in a friendly tone.
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Message examples in a friendly tone
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Hey, I’d love to hear what’s been going on beneath the surface for you.
What’s something you haven’t said out loud much lately?
I want to hear the version of ‘how are you’ that people don’t usually say.
I’ve been reflecting a lot—curious what that’s looked like for you.
I feel like we usually stay on the surface—can we go a bit deeper today?
I’d like to hear what’s been meaningful to you recently.
I feel like we don’t talk about the real stuff enough.
What’s been on your mind that you haven’t shared much?
I want to hear the real version of how you’ve been.